Why I choose community over competition (and why you should too)

When I first started my business, I was stingy with my knowledge, my leads, and my time.

Out of fear and in an effort to protect my growing client base, I played it close to the chest.

Thankfully, things have changed.

As I became more confident in my abilities and more sure of my success, I stopped believing in the scarcity of opportunity—or the belief that there’s only so much success to go around. Instead, I chose to focus on abundance.

Today, I’m an open book and make an effort to serve as a helpful resource to those around me. I readily share knowledge, make connections and pass along speaking opportunities and/or clients that might not be the right fit for me.

This has resulted in an incredibly robust community of coaches, mentors, and friends who collectively lift each other up, make each other better, and help each other succeed. They have taught me that community beats competition, every day and in every way. I was missing out on that before.

If you feel like you’re missing out on community because you’re operating from a place of scarcity, you may be telling yourself some fear-based lies. Let’s speak truth to them.

Lie: Every client should be with me.

Truth: When the right clients and opportunities end up in the right lane, everyone wins.

It’s so easy to believe this lie, especially when you’re a new entrepreneur. The reality is that not every client or project is right for you, and you’re doing yourself and others a disservice by taking on work that doesn’t make sense.

Lie: I’m not as good as they are.

Truth: I can learn to do the things I want to be doing (maybe even with their help).

When you feel a general jealously toward someone else, it’s usually because they’re doing something you’d like to be doing. What is that thing? Perhaps they are better at it than you are—right now. But it’s never too late to learn.

Lie: It’s never going to happen for me.

Truth: I can trust the timing of my life.

If you’re experiencing setbacks and encountering obstacles, it’s OK to feel discouraged. But don’t buy in to the idea that your goals and dreams are unachievable. If you’re showing up for yourself and putting in the work, you’ll get there. Trust the process.

A final thought: A strong community of colleagues, mentors, and friends can help in each one of these areas. But you can’t have that strong community if you’re constantly looking over you shoulder and falling into the comparison trap.

Believe in abundance, lean on others and help them along the way, too. I promise it pays off.

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