A few weeks ago, my husband, Nick, and I were catching up on episodes of “This Is Us.” Sylvester Stallone made a guest appearance and said this: “There’s only memories that mean something and memories that don’t.” I asked Nick to pause it immediately so I could write down the line.
There’s only memories that mean something. And memories that don’t.
If what he said is true (spoiler alert: it is), shouldn’t we focus our time and energy on making the type of memories that matter? And try our hardest to filter out the moments that don’t?
Over the past few months, I’ve doubled down on making memories that matter to me—choosing to say yes to being present in whatever room I’m in, turning off distractions (goodbye Facebook app), and giving myself permission to soak up everyday moments.
When I reflect back on my life, it is the everyday moments that matter most for me. Listening to my favorite music on vinyl with Nick in our living room. Opening a bottle of wine we bought on our honeymoon to sip as we map out plans for our future. Making things out of playdough for our daughters, Dorothy and Maeve. Sitting on the front porch and basking in the morning sun.
There was a long chapter in my life where I was over-scheduled, underwhelmed, and searching for meaning. It wasn’t until I was willing to embrace the limitations of time and energy that I started to thrive. I mapped out my values and figured out what success looked like on my terms. I started making more memories that mattered.
If you feel over-scheduled and underwhelmed, here are a few tips that have worked for me:
- Create a mantra to help you slow down and be present. Just for today is mine. Just for today I am present. Just for today I am free from worry.
- Remember that comparison is the thief of joy. Map out your priorities, and stop worrying about keeping up with the Joneses, Smiths, or Johnsons.
- Be unabashedly honest with yourself. Put your voice behind your desires. What is it you want to be different? Say it out loud in front of your mirror until it stops feeling uncomfortable and starts feeling possible.
What memories matter most to you? I’d love to know. Send me an email with the memories you cherish most.
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