June 3, 2025
My daughter Dorothy recently shared that many classmates don’t like one of their teachers because she’s tough. Dorothy sees things differently. “She expects us to play to our fullest potential,” Dorothy said. “And I really like that about her.” It begs the question: Why wouldn’t someone want to play to their fullest potential? Spoiler alert: […]
April 24, 2025
I saw this clip about a tennis player who thanked herself for not quitting, and I thought, I love the idea of thanking ourselves for all that we do. So, during a recent monthly meetup, I asked the women in my Leadership Circle to thank themselves for something. Here are highlights of the gratitude they […]
November 19, 2024
Earlier this year, a dear friend of mine called. He was out of options to treat his cancer. He would enter hospice care soon. I had a dentist appointment the next morning, and when I arrived at the office, the receptionist greeted me. “How are you?” she asked. I decided to be honest. I told […]
April 15, 2024
It’s all or nothing. That’s what those of us who are Type A tend to believe, isn’t it? We heard our parents, teachers, and coaches preach to us that anything worth doing is worth doing right. That we had to give everything our best. That 110% is the only way. From careers and families to diets and […]
April 14, 2024
Here’s a list of just a few of the things my clients are good at: How do I know? They told me. For women, the confidence to talk about our strengths often doesn’t come naturally. In fact, we’re more likely than men to underestimate ourselves or avoid sharing our strengths for fear of being seen […]
April 14, 2024
You gotta be brave before you can be good. I heard the line while watching a movie years ago and it keeps coming back to me—this idea that bravery precedes many of our successes. I want you to think, for a moment, about your pipe dream—that loftier goal you haven’t written down because you’re scared or unsure. Perhaps […]
April 14, 2024
Hey perfectionists, we need to talk. I’ve been noticing a theme as I work with clients. Some are perfectionists themselves, and some work for perfectionists. Both are struggling to feel heard. That’s because perfectionists usually apply their preferences to everything. And those preferences, which are often subjective, feel too important to compromise. Perfectionists, for example, […]
December 20, 2020
Today, I got to witness the best in humanity when I attended an outdoor funeral service for Mr. Brown, a homeless man who spent most of his nights under a tree at the park near my house. Mourners were invited to bring blankets, men’s coats, and hand warmers to donate to others experiencing homelessness in […]
August 4, 2020
The women around me have taken on a whole new set of responsibilities lately. They are preparing for another semester of homeschooling, adjusting to working from home throughout the day (sometimes in spurts and while Zooming from closets), and running to the grocery for elderly family members in the evenings. They’re also navigating divisive conversations […]
May 26, 2020
I think it’s safe to say we all feel an urgent desire to press fast-forward on what is clearly a very uncomfortable moment for all of us. But I think that would be a mistake. Stop living urgent and start living significant. I recently read that quote, and I love it. Friends, now is not […]
November 20, 2019
Here we are, heading into the holidays once again—many of us feeling a strange mixture of excitement, stress, sadness, and joy. As I talk to clients and friends about what makes this season so hard, I’ve noticed a theme: expectations vs. reality. We expect the holidays to be warm and fuzzy, filled with moments we’ll […]
October 22, 2019
Some rules just don’t make sense. I recently sat on a panel with a woman about this exact topic, and she was once asked to stop wearing jewelry that made noise because it was distracting. And I have a brilliant client—an Ivy-League educated lawyer—who was encouraged to change her hair and wear glasses at her […]