Brave before good: 3 ways to flex your bravery muscle

You gotta be brave before you can be good.
 
I heard the line while watching a movie years ago and it keeps coming back to me—this idea that bravery precedes many of our successes.
 
I want you to think, for a moment, about your pipe dream—that loftier goal you haven’t written down because you’re scared or unsure.
 
Perhaps you’re thinking of starting a business or going for a promotion or leaving a difficult relationship.
 
And I want you consider that you have to be brave before you can be good—that for a time, as you work toward that goal, you’ll have to be bold in the face of uncertainty. So here are three ways to flex your bravery muscle.
 
Tell someone else.
 
Breathe life into your plans by telling someone else—a friend, spouse, colleague, or parent. Make it someone you trust. Voicing our Big Hairy Audacious Goals adds a layer of accountability, offers others the chance to be encouraging (or even helpful along the way) and, ultimately, can remove some of the fear by making it feel a little more real.
 
Back yourself like you back others.
 
I drove this home recently in a digital seminar with a group of working moms. Think about how you support and advocate for the dreams of your friends, family, and colleagues. How would it look if you backed your dreams like you back theirs? How would your self-talk change? Perhaps bravery would come a little easier if we encouraged ourselves like we do others.
 
Believe in the domino effect.
 
Sometimes being brave enough to take one step has a positive domino effect on our lives. A former client emailed me recently to say she had taken that step. She was unhappy in her current living environment, so she sold her house and moved across the country for an adventure. First, the move spurred some important conversations with her employer, leading to an exciting pivot in her role. Then, lo and behold, she found love—an unexpected upside from the decision she made to sell her home.
 
Think about it: What one, brave step can you take to gain some momentum?
 
Believe in your ability to be brave. The good will come later.
 
Rooting for you,
Regan

P.S. Looking to strengthen your bravery muscles?  I encourage you to explore my Leadership Circle. It’s a yearlong program for female executives who want to invest in coaching, development, and community.

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