June 3, 2025
My daughter Dorothy recently shared that many classmates don’t like one of their teachers because she’s tough. Dorothy sees things differently. “She expects us to play to our fullest potential,” Dorothy said. “And I really like that about her.” It begs the question: Why wouldn’t someone want to play to their fullest potential? Spoiler alert: […]
April 24, 2025
I saw this clip about a tennis player who thanked herself for not quitting, and I thought, I love the idea of thanking ourselves for all that we do. So, during a recent monthly meetup, I asked the women in my Leadership Circle to thank themselves for something. Here are highlights of the gratitude they […]
January 16, 2025
At lunch with a former client, I was reminded of the diminishing effect of micromanagers. The client is a C-suite executive. Her boss, the president of the company, is new and is introducing a more intense level of supervision than my client, and the rest of the company, is used to. This is showing up […]
November 19, 2024
Earlier this year, a dear friend of mine called. He was out of options to treat his cancer. He would enter hospice care soon. I had a dentist appointment the next morning, and when I arrived at the office, the receptionist greeted me. “How are you?” she asked. I decided to be honest. I told […]
June 21, 2024
My husband, Nick, recently did a project as part of an interview process where he had to imagine his life 10 years from now. Who would he be? Where would his focus lie? What would his day-to-day look like? Nick wrote in great detail about what he saw for himself—and that, of course, included all […]
June 10, 2024
A friend of mine is readying to celebrate the release of her book. In her email asking if I’d help spread the word when it hits shelves, she wrote: I want to take you to lunch in exchange for supporting me. Here’s the deal: I’m DELIGHTED to support her. She’s a wonderful person, and I know […]
May 29, 2024
After decades of chasing big dreams, building high-powered careers, caring for families, and creating community, the women I work with are nothing if not burnt out. Many of them confuse this exhaustion with despondency or, worse, loss of self. “I’m a total mess,” they tell me—despite the fact that on paper, they are wildly successful. […]
April 15, 2024
It’s all or nothing. That’s what those of us who are Type A tend to believe, isn’t it? We heard our parents, teachers, and coaches preach to us that anything worth doing is worth doing right. That we had to give everything our best. That 110% is the only way. From careers and families to diets and […]
April 14, 2024
Here’s a list of just a few of the things my clients are good at: How do I know? They told me. For women, the confidence to talk about our strengths often doesn’t come naturally. In fact, we’re more likely than men to underestimate ourselves or avoid sharing our strengths for fear of being seen […]
April 14, 2024
You gotta be brave before you can be good. I heard the line while watching a movie years ago and it keeps coming back to me—this idea that bravery precedes many of our successes. I want you to think, for a moment, about your pipe dream—that loftier goal you haven’t written down because you’re scared or unsure. Perhaps […]
April 14, 2024
Hey perfectionists, we need to talk. I’ve been noticing a theme as I work with clients. Some are perfectionists themselves, and some work for perfectionists. Both are struggling to feel heard. That’s because perfectionists usually apply their preferences to everything. And those preferences, which are often subjective, feel too important to compromise. Perfectionists, for example, […]
April 13, 2024
A friend of mine recently asked me about all the work I share about setting boundaries and saying no. “What about the importance of saying yes?” she asked. “When is it time to dial up your yeses?” I appreciated her asking me those questions, and I want to assure you that I do still make room for […]